I personally love to see couples hand in hand or kissing and it particularly makes me smile to see the older generation walking hand in hand or kissing. However, my personal experience of this has been that the general public feel it is anti-social and unacceptable. The new relationship fairy-tale phase of constantly kissing and public displays of affection are standard but what happens after?
A few months back my boyfriend and I entered a wine bar in Leeds. We had both had a few early door drinks in the city and were heading home with just ‘one more for the road’. We were kissing, we are always kissing. The manager of the said wine bar asked us to ‘Calm it down as it was making other customers feel uncomfortable.’ We did try and ‘calm it down,’ but it is very hard when you just want to kiss.
A few days later when we went back to the same wine bar we were told that in a staff meeting, yes you read right, a staff meeting, it had been discussed that due to our open public displays of affection that we were not welcome back into that establishment. We both found this very amusing, not only that we were discussed in a staff meeting but also that our kissing offended people. Needless to say we never went back.
Another incident was on a plane to Tenerife where we were heading for a one week break in the sun. I was standing outside the toilet waiting to go in and my boyfriend, the gentleman he is, stood with me in the queue and guess what; we kissed. I came out of the toilet to find the whole front two aisles of the aeroplane staring at me. It transpired that whilst in the toilet a man had approached my boyfriend and said that it was extremely inappropriate that we had kissed in front of the whole plane.
My boyfriend had remained silent when this man had made his kissing opinion clear and when I found out what had been said it made me laugh out loud. For the whole four-hour plane journey, drinks being poured, myself, my boyfriend and the two front row aisles of the plane bonded over the outrageousness of this non-kissing rule. I could understand it if we had been sexing it up but to be stood up and kissing, without tongues may I add, I found this a bit ludicrous.
We are a very passionate and openly affectionate couple and I personally think this is normal in a loving, caring and sexual relationship. Don’t get me wrong there have been incidents which may have been classed as inappropriate i.e. blow jobs in the back of cabs, hands down the knickers along with a few sexual encounters in various locations. Sometimes you just can’t wait to get home and needs need to be met.
I would kiss my boyfriend 24/7 if I could as I love him that much. We’ve been told to ‘Get a room,’ too many times to mention but we have also been told, ‘I love the love between you two,’ too many times as well. I’m not one to care what other people think as I think not enough people kiss in public and I also think if you want to kiss someone then do it. How did humans procreate in the first place? It wasn’t through holding hands!
Look at this whole debacle with Victoria Beckham kissing her own daughter on the lips. I kiss my daughter on the lips all the time. Why wouldn’t I?
In my kissing opinion and in a society that is becoming so regimented and restricted I think we all need to kiss more and stop judging others. Next time you want to kiss your daughter, son, mum, dad or lover, just do it and let the non-kissing people let their lips dry up. (define relationship blog by &R)
By & R